As world travelers, we’re often faced with the challenge of traversing multiple countries in a limited number of weeks or months. Wanting to capture the essence of experiences that each country has to offer, we move very quickly from place to place and load our days with sightseeing itineraries, guided tours, and outdoor excursions. All the while, our travel goals dance in front of our eyes, reminding us about the enormity of what we’re yet to discover. Any superfluous moments spent in one location come at the opportunity cost of being able to experience something new, and possibly better, right around the corner. Time is our most precious traveling resource, and we put a great deal of effort into dealing with its scarcity.
No matter how well we craft our daily itineraries, though, something troubling inevitably occurs: we land somewhere that really gets under our skin, and we want nothing more than to stay. Perhaps it’s the exquisite surroundings, the close relationships we make at our hostel, or just the hackneyed “good vibe” that makes us want to sink our roots into a particular place and not move for a while. The trouble is, though, that while our hearts say “stay,” our inner achiever tells us that the best is yet to come. There is an intrinsic expectation that we left home to explore many new places, and to neglect that expectation is to subvert the original goal of traveling itself. All of a sudden, a dark fantasy emerges of a future time when, looking back at our days of opportunity, we experience heartfelt regret over not “seeing it while we were there.” We replay this troubling narrative over and over again in our minds until the idea of staying in one place is ludicrous, and even offensive. The bag gets packed, and we’re relieved to see that horrible, wonderful place we once felt attached to in the rear view mirror of our night bus to the next town. Continue reading “The Trouble with Paradise”